Monthly Archives: January 2015

Writing to free ourselves and to heal.

31 Saturday Jan 2015

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I as you all know love music. I love orchestral music as well. The group on the music links below I loved as a kid. And, I still appreciate them now.

Certain music stands out in each generation. They had a very unique sound.

The first song, “Nights in white satin” has different possible meanings. That is what good writing of lyrics can do. It allows the listener to climb into the message and emotion of the song. Our life’s events and circumstances attach to the music and it forever brings that event back to life in our minds and allows our emotions to be moved when  the first note plays. It is a beautiful gift from God.

I believe this song when compared to my life and all the years that I have  lived could best be interpreted this way for me…

This song to me is about relationships on so many levels. Who has not written a letter or at least went through the cerebral thought process of what would be said to a person who deeply upsets us and we wanted them to know.

I have written one such letter in my life. It depleted me  and  I found it exhausting to write by hand I might add and it went into a stamped envelope. Fortunately just before I mailed it out by the grace of God I heard in my head one word. No.

I brought that word No to prayer and realized that my writing of that letter with such detail and raw specificity was a cathartic measure to help me to empty the hurt out fully. So, I felt peace and tore the letter to shreds.

The letter was blatantly true, what I found at the end of this writing  which was heavy with vitriol was the fact that I forgave them and loved them. I actually cried when I finished that letter. I gave forgiveness in my heart to them. This is another case once again where holding your emotions in check is vital.

Had I just thrown that letter into the mail. I would have devastated the recipient of the letter. She was not equipped to deal with the truth. She knew the truth , but most likely would never have owned  it or admitted it to me. By this time in my life and faith walk with God he had shown me my own short comings so how could I judge her personal falter?  Like the bible says, take the log out of your own eye before you try and take a splinter out of some one else’s. Amen to that.

Remember, some letters never should be sent. I do not believe that we always have to have the last word or so called closure. We are suppose to be Jesus to oneanother and we are expected to show a measured mercy to our offenders.

Let me state that to me forgiveness is paramount . After that if a relationship is unhealthy It is important to protect and distance yourself from that person or situation. You do not need to talk about them , just let them be. God is working in their lives too.

We just need to look at the cross to our teacher Jesus Christ and  his words as he was brutally murdered on the cross because of our sins. FORGIVE THEM FATHER FOR THEY KNOW WHAT THEY DO.

So, if Jesus could forgive us. I sure the heck could forgive her.

 

We do not always need to be right , because we are not always right.

I strongly feel that my tearing that letter up and not continuing the unhealthy cycle of hurt that she perpetrated was the right thing to do. My actions  must truely have  given her  pause over the years. Her conscience I am sure has been very much in touch with the truth. I also think that she is aware of what honest humble faith is now.

Nights in white satin the moody blues

 

This song below , in her eyes  was written when the lead singers daughter was born and he looked into the beautiful eyes of his child. What parent has not looked at their God given gift of their child and not worried about the direction that the world and society were going in.

It seems as I get older that I have come into the realization that every generation worries about the direction of which society is going . And , I think that it is worthy of our consideration.

But we have something that is more useful than the act of worrying and stressing out about our children’s futures. We have Jesus Christ the author of life watching over us.We need to give our children and families this hopeful and life giving message.

Whatever we as a people do with our earthly pens, laws whatever decisions we make to alter our lives and societies structure can very easily be corrected by the  author of life.  God can always set the story of our lives straight once again. Amen.

 

In her eyes. Moody blues

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=ud7TsATY5eo

 

God Bless You,

Danny

Brotherly Love And That of My Siblings

30 Friday Jan 2015

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I WILL BE MY BROTHERS KEEPER

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=m5Npnsag5nQ

 

I love my siblings, thankyou for all that you have always done for me. You are bricks in my foundation. .:)

I was blessed in this life with 3 brothers, 2 are older than me and 1 have one that is younger. My parents had 5 children the eldest being my sister and then us four guys. I was 3rd out of 4 boys.

My second brother and I are Irish twins and are separated by only 9 months.

We as younger brothers had our typical stuff we rumbled, wrestled  and whacked each other. We  took the house apart as we raced the hallway skidding and tackling one another. It was liked the wild west early on. My mom and dad did what they needed to and got the reigns on all of us very early on.. My mom was not a shrinking violet. She was as smart as a whip and had a true second sense. She knew and felt anything regarding her entire family. She would often say, I don’t know, I have a funny feeling. One night my brother went out and  when he returned early in the am around 2 ish  my brother no sooner quietly came in the rear door but my mom said S. Are you okay what happened? She had woken up and knew he had an accident with her car. She just always knew stuff.

At times it was difficult to be her kid because she was so darn intuitive. 🙂 thank God for my mom .

My brothers and I are All different and yet we are all the same. God’s design for families is perfect despite our imperfections. You know, It is said that you can pick your friends but you cannot pick your family.

I do not think that this  is a sentiment that applies to my brothers and sister or for yours either. Sure there were times in my younger days that I may of felt that way  to a certain degree. They are as imperfect as I am  so why should there not be a little conflict?

As we get older and hopefully wiser we grow and get more comfortable in our own skin at that point sibling rivalry can find a back seat to the true sibling relationship.

You know young guys so often wear masks. We cover up our feelings and act cool even though inside we are filled with fear, doubts and insecurity. As 1 out of 4 boys in my home in that day, we were all different with different likes and abilities. So at times one boy out shined the others. In time each one of us boys had our own moments in the sun as we learned what it was that we excelled at.

All the while my mom and dads support and guidance would keep us in check. They demanded for us to respect and not to degrade one another. They had zero tolerance for that nonsense.

My parents complimented us when it was justified but did not give false praise. My mom and dad knew that we could not all get the same awards and trophy. Some made the honor roll some did not. My mom and dad did not apologize for celebrating one siblings award if we too did not receive it. That’s was life. We had to deal with that.

You know that type of upbringing was very healthy. As we got older the true green monster of jealousy and competition between us stayed in a very healthy place. My brothers and I were all involved at one point in a family business that the four of us purchased and we had  many good years together in. The best part of that business though not perfect was creating a start up with my brothers. my parents hard work paid off as they watched their boys work in unison to make a dream come true. It was in that moment that each one of used our different strengths and combined them to make 1 very beautiful,professional , and consumer satisfaction based family business.

John Lennon

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=oxphDGam5Rw

Each one shined with their own gifts. We all lined up and ego and competition did not rule the day. These are moments that I will always cherish.

Over the years my younger brother decided that he had realized another dream for himself and he moved on from the business, we had grown substantially and he frankly was tired of doing his daily job.

The bottom line is this, families need to support one another. I know its hard when your younger to see and appreciate this fact  but if you can it will make the adult years together all the better. And, as you then have the next generation of family members they too can learn lessons from watching how you relate to your siblings.

LEAN ON ME.

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=N5jlPL1tNDY

When I became ill with cancer it was a true shocker here  in this house and all of my families home too. I was absolutely a massive doer.My feet and hands never stopped. I was everywhere doing stuff for everybody. I would hit the bed and fall asleep and would awake in the morning with no alarm and get out of bed with a song in my heart to start the day.

When, I could no longer be me 3 years ago, my song and life  lost its beat and my family and friends became my new song.

My brothers and my sister who I will write about soon just started a new song for me one of love, compassion and understanding. They knew Danny the sibling well because they had been part of my personal psalm #139 . They are part of the fabric of my life.

There has been nothing that they have not done here at my home from huge amounts of yard work, painting,  repairs, cleaning etc. They know how I lived and how things bother me. My dad’s very fussy even at the age of 87 . I am the same as my dad in that regard.

My family has driven me hundreds if not thousands of miles for treatments, mystery rides to get me/us out. If I looked kind of ratty or they thought it would perk me up they shopped with their coupons and got me things that they thought would make things nice. My sister was doing shopping at stores for all natural foods for me to have to build my immune system up.

My sister in law called and she showed up to remove my hair that was falling out from the treatment. I never asked, I was just cleaning the hair strainer in the shower and cleaning the hair up off of the bathroom floor . But, she thought it would be better and N was right. By us removing the hair it took the power of that side effect away. It became my choice.

I will continue with this soon.

I WILL BE THERE

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=Xg2vMrDzoXM

Went with the wind.

29 Thursday Jan 2015

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Well the snow is gone for the moment. I really enjoyed having the kids around during the storm unable to go anywhere. It was fun. Moments that are few and far between these days with my wife and kids schedules being what they are. I was happy  that we could all just be here together. And, I know many of your families enjoyed this time as well.

Fortunately my wife and kids got milk and bread and we did not lose power so it was not bad at all. 🙂

It’s funny, there is so little on television that my family will watch these days. I keep saying to my wife lets get rid of the cable. My wife keeps saying let’s get rid of the phone. We just get junk calls. Our friends and family have our cell #

It seems like life has gotten so much more expensive. When I was a kid we had free tv ,we did not have cell phones, or personal computers. These days, everything costs us monthly. And yes, some technology is good. But not all.

I have spent a whole lot of time alone here over the last almost 3 years.

I would look to find something to watch and kill a little time. I could not read and pray 24 hours a day. :).

My son has Netflix so I watched a few things there too. I sought out things from my childhood, movies etc. It was interesting seeing what was on tv back in the day. Often things were much different to see  as an adult then with a child’s perspective. I was like God no wonder my parents would not watch them with me. They were very corny. I remember watching bat man and thinking gosh I could see things now that as a child I  does not notice. Like the jokers mustache that is under all the caked on makeup.

Although corny,these old shows did have a positive message. It created role models for the kids, the hero’s . 🙂

So many of the shows today are not like that. The subject matter today for the kids is pretty terrible. Everything is heavy duty I think for kids. Kids cannot be just kids anymore.

F.TRoop. very funny.

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=xW8zpeqfEy4

Netflix was good with older series. It also had good Christian movies when you searched that term and they popped right up.

My brother and I were talking one evening probably 6 months  ago and he told me about the station’s up tv, cozy tv and ME tv which has classic tv shows. So, I found them and have found some good shows and some that I had never actually watched before.

Yes, some of these shows are a little corny but they were well intentioned and humorous without the vulgarity, sleeze and they Don’t insult you like so many of the programs do today.

I just recently found the Carol Brunette show. I heard of it years back but never had watched it. I think my grand parents use to watch her.

Like I say, we need healthy diversions in our lives. So keep laughing.

Carol Brunette the kidnapping.

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=ojMFk18Z0Bs

Went with the wind. 🙂

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=pjUYw2HKB7o

 

FUNNY OLDER MAN LAUGHING.

if this does not make you laugh, nothing will. 🙂 I have a nephew that can laugh like this. He brings such joy to our lives.

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=tkH1uldKg1A

God Bless You,

Danny

John Bevere The Holy Spirit is your best friend

28 Wednesday Jan 2015

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I have been writing in this blog over the many months another theme that is so true to me and it effects us all so much.

Well, this morning as I began my prayer, I looked at my bible and saw the daily reading. It was one that I have never seen before but how true it is even after thousands of years since it was written.

Romans 8 :6 Amplified bible

https://www.bible.com/bible/8/rom.8.6-8.amp

After reading this scripture and realizing that I had written these words without ever seeing this scripture only reinforced the Special relationship we have with God through the Holy Spirit. I may not have read these words initially but God made sure I learned them. This is a beautiful and powerful message for us all to remember.

It’s  Supernatural with Sid Roth

 

God can ask us to do his works but we need to believe in him and ourselves and say yes. Our lives then become out of this world. 🙂 It is very exciting.

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=W2RSLYk_CcU

 

God Bless You,

Danny

storm fun.

27 Tuesday Jan 2015

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This is what happens when the white stuff flies.

 

Enjoy the snow day 🙂

I gotta get the milk and bread.

 

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=5rBjZ_U2hNY

Weatherman freaks out.

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=h24HBjhsTfo

The people verses winter.

 

Ice is the worst!!!!!

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=xKy2lLNQYrI

Pets have fun in the snow

This video is a little long but my black labbie used to love the snow. No matter how old Jessy was when she saw snow the pup inside came out. I miss her.

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=azEIDf1YhiQ 

Blessings,

Danny

I Saw God Today

26 Monday Jan 2015

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For Anne and Family:

Still Hillsong United.  Still.

 

 

I have become accustomed to seeking God out daily particularly since my cancer diagnosis. I had searched for him prior to cancer. But that diagnosis made my personal relationship so much more authentic and more substantial.

I think life can be very confusing, when we know God our personal decisions become easier but we still battle with our own thoughts on a given matter, or we are swayed by our upbringing of how we were thought and finally we have emotions that do not want us to do the right thing. I have learned that we are best when we die to self and do as Jesus would do and show love even in a unlovable situation.

I had the opportunity to speak to a friend yesterday, I would ask you to please pray for A.K.  Anne too suffers from the same diagnosis that I was diagnosed with. She has currently out lived the doctors diagnosis. But, she is apparently now unable to speak and is basically laying in bed.

I told her family friend C yesterday as we spoke. That God’s got Anne and he know where she is at. I also told C. That Anne is not a victim she is a beautiful teacher as she lies there she is showing her loved ones the way of the cross, she is allowing others to serve and learn.

Now, does anyone want to see our loved ones in Anne’s situation ? No.

But, the bottom line is this, God users all situations to help us all.

The final thing I would say is this through personal experience.

Anne could rally and turn around if that is  God’s will. I was very ill and God has pulled me out from my illness for the moment. God has his reason for this. Its not because I am a Saint either.

So, where there is life there is hope and if Anne is called by God, guess what .Anne’s hope is not dashed. God’s got her and she will be reunited with all of her loved ones.

Having lost my mom a year and 1/2 ago, I understand every moment of the vigil and emotions that go when we are loving our dear ones until they take the Lord’s hand.

So, I do not take lightly the difficult process for the family members.

It would be great to just have days of beauty, of joy of moments filled with endless possibilities but that is not life here. We have situations that are out of our control that can dictate where our lives, emotions and hopes will go.

That’s why seeing  through the eyes of faith makes all the difference in the world. We can see the hope regardless of the situation.

So again, Please keep Anne in your prayers. I will perhaps someday give you more information on the person that she is. She has brought much joy to many of the year’s. A gift from God him self. This song suits Anne well, she her….

I Saw God Today-George Strait(With Lyrics)

Time Of Miracles

25 Sunday Jan 2015

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There is no doubt to me that this is  a Miracle.

From ABC  http://abcnews.go.com/Primetime/story?id=132205

Blind Woman Regains Sight

Aug. 16

Ten years ago, Lisa Reid lost her sight. But last November, while reaching down to kiss her beloved guide dog Amy, Reid says an accident turned into a miracle and she could suddenly see again.

“I kind of lost my balance,” she says. “[I] hit my head on the floor and coffee table at same time.”

In one mystifying moment, everything changed, as she regained the vison she had lost at age 14.

“It wasn’t scary,” Reid, 25, tells ABCNEWS’ Jay Schadler. “It definitely wasn’t scary. It was the most beautiful thing ever.”

But some doctors are skeptical, unable to find a medical explanation for Reid’s recovered vision. Some have even suggested that her blindness may have been more psychological than physical all along.

But whatever the explanation, Reid says her life has been transformed. Though her eyesight remains imperfect, a world long hidden is visible again.

Life Saved, Vision Lost

Reid was raised by her hard-working mother in a tourist town along the northern coast of New Zealand after her father had abandoned them. When she was 11, she developed a cancerous brain tumor.

“It was slowly suffocating me,” Reid says of the headaches, vomiting and loss of coordination that accompanied the cancer.

A delicate operation removed the tumor and saved her life. But her optic nerves — which carry visual information from the eyes to the brain — had been permanently damaged.

“She’s got optic atrophy, or damage to the nerves that join the eye to the brain” says Dr. Ross McKay, an ophthalmologist in Auckland, “A result of the raised pressure inside her skull caused by her tumor.”

As Reid’s eyesight faded, so did her connections to the world she once knew.

“My ophthalmologist basically said to me that I was never going to see again,” she says. “”Having something so precious taken away from you… you just think it’s quite unfair.”

Asked what she missed most when she lost her sight, Reid says, “Probably myself. And I don’t mean that in a vain way, I mean that in the sense that I couldn’t see myself physically, but… I couldn’t see myself inside either.

A Blind Date

So, like many people who lose their sight, she began to reinvent her life.

She became a poster child for kids with cancer, appearing on TV shows and documentaries in New Zealand throughout her teen years. She also made promotional appearances to help raise money for the organization that trained her seeing-eye dog.

“I didn’t want to sit at home and just twiddle my thumbs,” says Reid. She went to the movies to listen, even though she could not see the action on screen. “There was a hell of a lot I could do.”

Two years ago, Reid called a dating service. She chatted on the phone for hours with someone named Rob Williams — not mentioning that she could not see — and they agreed to meet.

To say it was love at first sight, would not be technically true, but the two hit it off right away. And though Reid couldn’t see Williams, he could see something in her.

“She just has so much energy and so positive,” he says. After so many years alone, Reid had found a companion.

Newfound Clarity

Then, late last year, Reid experienced the most profound change of all. The morning after falling and hitting her head, she woke up to find that her blindness had lifted.

“I just saw the white of my ceiling,” she recalls. “Looking around my room… the light shining through the curtains… the window frame… Looking at Amy. She’s just beautiful.”

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WRONG NUMBER. laughter is so good for us.

24 Saturday Jan 2015

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In our lives we need to laugh I know that this is a common theme on my blog but the reason is because it is so true. We as a society are very much challenged by our days and all of the sadness that is around us. News, regular life stuff.

We need the balance of laughter to make life joyous. So my attempt to bring humor to my blog here is to show the different types out there. They may not be your style so look for what is and laugh. It makes a big difference in your day. It chemically changes your mood too naturally. God made us wonderfully. Amen.

 

 

Wrong Number with Carol Burnette

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=YCtZu7r6Xyk

Carol Burnett  no frills airline

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=QCz8he36hsk

 

Carol BURNETT

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=ITM0cU3GlZ8

Carol BURNETT

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=LUKYH3jtDMM

 

Young man on pain meds in hospital. Very funny.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WSUs0LhYMaU

 

God Bless You,

Danny

 

WHAT A DIFFERENCE A DAY MAKES.

23 Friday Jan 2015

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I had to laugh last night when I was sitting in my chair talking to my brother by phone about life in general I said that I felt so much better. The last two and 1/2 weeks have been my most difficult physically and emotionally that I have ever had. As I wrote during the last two weeks exactly how I felt. Being real in the moment is what it takes to be honest and to help anyone who reads this blog.

I spoke to my  physical therapy practice today, I have not been there  for 3 weeks and my insurance is denying my treatment now. So tomorrow , I will be on the horn to try and get  that decision changed. In the meantime , I have my son setting up my tread mill for my use because I have lots of time to make up for and muscle that needs to be built.

My mind is clear, my resolve is back, it’s about feeding myself.

My action plan is this…

1.) I need to feed myself  spiritually. I need to be grateful to God daily.

2.) I need to feed my body with great nutrition. Low fat, low sugar, and balanced carbs.

3.) I need to step onto the treadmill everyday no matter how I am feeling and walk for as long I can walk. No excuses.

4.) I need to love myself and cannot look at my current physical level of ability and appearance and dislike myself.

YOU KNOW,

God is fully aware of how I feel whether I verbalize it or not. He knows where I am at even better than I do.

But, what he does expect me to do in this moment is to accept this situation, to continue to try and bring my new vision of myself to fruition with positive action all the while knowing that I am called to love myself. GOD expects us to greet each day with hope and a overwhelming sense that God is meeting us and bringing us to where we are to go. We need to show up, for him to work with us.

So, I will begin Danny training again tomorrow and see where I am as we go, I will do my own therapy Danny style as well at Casa del Danny. 🙂

For the record , I must say my physical therapist has never denied me service and I truely love them. I just feel unable to go and take advantage of any one. They are my dear friends and I cannot do that .

So, I will again try the doctors once again tomorrow and insurer and see what happens. I feel so great again, I am on the mountain top ready to go once again.

As I was talking to my brother this evening and said how great I was feeling and

I had  to laugh because a song from my grandmother’s era came into my head and kept playing. Lol    My grandmother was inspiring me and helping me along my road . 🙂

So hear it is..

 

How true these words are. When we are down, just wait, things will right themselves. Hope is abounding if we believe.

WHAT A DIFFERENCE A DAY MAKES.

THANKS NANA ILENE 🙂 xoxo

 

Dinah Washington

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=OmBxVfQTuvI

AND HOW ABOUT THIS ONE? You’ve  got to smile. 🙂

Tomorrow Annie

http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=5PzL8aL6jtI

 

God Bless You,

Danny

What Faith Can Do. Miracles/Everything.

22 Thursday Jan 2015

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God is good.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EPRFqGNuMfY

Boy talks with God sad but beautiful. This little boys parent have done something very right. Amen.

Faith = God.  God= Miracles. Amen

Catholic Miracles. 

Incorruptables, God’s Glory!

What Faith Can Do Cutlass

 

God Bless You,

Danny