Love Your Children.

Growing up when I did in the good old USA.during the late 6O’ s and seventies was good because God blessed me with a good family and specifically a mom and dad who were very much in step when it came to parenting and they had a United front.

We as kids were not part of the adult conversation. There were parameters set where mom and dad talked and decisions were made and that was the end of that. As we got older, they would allow us to be part of the conversation on things related to our own life journeys. We were given the dignity of our decisions. My parents allowed us to wobble and fall down a little too. It was a process of maturing and we had to evaluate the pro’s and cons and what net effect or consequence of what our choices would have on our lives.

As, my wife and I have raised our kids I often reflect on and now appreciate more fully the true amount of love, work, prayer and financial investment it would take to get our children to be ready to greet this world. To be a solid person, one who is self sufficient but not self centered. One that is optimistic, and see’ s the hope in the situation. Good Godly people. Amen.

Now, there is no such thing as a perfect parent because we have our own stuff too . The stuff that matters the most to any kid is love. Next in my view is stability. Kids need to know there is a constant in their lives that they know whatever happens you have them in your corner to support and love them.

Two adults who create a family need to step up and give what they have been blessed with the best and give a child stability,love and knowledge of God. Amen.

Toby Mac family

Having said that parents in my point of view do not need to bail their children  out of every situation that they get into. My feeling is that we can try to help to guide them with  biblically correct ways to correct the situation. That way they learn and can grow from  it without it ruining their futures, self image  or the image of who they are before God.

God loves us all, he does lot love the sin. But, a honest heart felt repentance and confession of sins makes us new before God.

We as kids can feel frightened and feel instability in our lives .So long as we have stability that is in fact in place for us, we will be fine. In others words even me a 52 year old kid when my life flipped upside down almost 3 years ago my life was very unstable but what my parents instilled in me from my childhood has allowed me to acknowledged that the  instability exists but it did not shake my foundation. I owe my stability and feeling of love to my mom and dad , grandparents and countless others who have touched my life. They were and are God’s Blessings in my life. Amen.

My parents raised myself and my 4 siblings  in the time period that was Woodstock, free love, and anything goes. I remember my parents struggled to get us through that period without it changing who we were. The culture was so powerful and the images of the day were pretty jarring.

My wife and I have dealt with the same stuff with our kids only now the culture is so connected because of the technology. The crap comes at them non stop.

I am  grateful to God that my kids are almost there,they all are almost fully grown. That they know who they are, and are finding their own way. We guide and support them them but ultimately they have to pray on their decisions and make them on their own.

Being a parent is a true labor of love. They are part of us, they represent our personal best and perhaps our issues that we passed along. They carry our personal dreams for a beautiful ,peaceful and loving world with God as their father.

I saw this except from Michael Keaton on a news show today and felt very much in tune with his message. The message was old but it was made new. Love, sacrafice and devotion of parents.

REMEMBER, ALWAY BE GRATEFUL.  ITS NOT HAVING  WHAT YOU WANT, ITS WANTING WHAT YOU HAVE GOT. ( LYRICS FROM CHERYL CROW SOAKING UP THE SUN 🙂

Michael keaton

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBLh8qrhkuQ

God Bless You,

Danny