Saturday was fun day I missed church in the afternoon because my wife , one of my brothers and his wife Nancy along with my sister Donnaand her husband Chris converged on the Riley homestead here and took us to woodmans for lunch and we then went and took the Essex River cruise it took and out 1.5 hours on the boat and the weather could not have been better we then stopped because the ladies wanted ice cream. Our last stop was a spot in Rckport to watch the sunset. It was so beautiful. Yesterday was a very nice day. I was grateful for every moment and thanked God many many times during silent words of prayer.
For or my family and friends who have helped to transform our days to ones of beauty through words, prayers and deeds.
I have over the years seen so many people do things that looked irrational to me. Many ended up making bad choices. I understand now to a certain degree that people are looking for one thing happiness.Hapiness can certainly be elusive because life changes on a dime and when emotions ae involved you sometimes just what to get the heck out and escape.
Fortunately for me, I have seen this many times over the years friends, clients who have lived this. That is why when I began to get restless a while ago, I was able to attach my emotion to this situation. And say nope not going there.
I had had an older neighbor years ago that the grass was always greener somewhere else so they sold their home of over 30 years and moved from their home in Arlington and moved to Florida, they were retired and just wanted to get a fresh start from whatever. Well 5-6 years later they hated Florida they missed their friends, and changes in the Seasons. Florida was very transient and friends were made an lost. They were trying t sell their home and we’re losing so much value in Florida for whatever reason meanwhile Arlington was booming along with the Northeast region here.
They came back to find out that their old home was on the market and they could not afford to re purchase it. They were broken hearted. They rented an apartment in Arlington heights for a fortune and then started to fix up the place it was pretty run down. But, she kept here homes beautiful so she was treating it like her very own home. Here husband went to wrk once again in a hardware store locally. My parents and family felt so badly.
In in another case,I had a prominent
older couple and they lived in a lovely home in Arlington made for retirement.They were my clients for years and were very entrenched in the Town. The wife was having some emotional struggles andseemed to just want to escape whatever. They had a get away home down south for the winters and a Cape home for the summers.and they had all the financial trappings that one might want.
she came into my business one day and stated that she was selling her home and how upse her husband was and said he would not sell. She told me where she wanted to go to and I was in a rock and a hard place because I had a client who cared about making a decision that looked very unstable and unnecessary but that’s where each one of us is allowed the dignity of our decisions. I tip toed the situation carefully with my brothers being honest and supportive. Well, my client went ahead and purchased the new condo and had us go in to change items she did not like. She and her husband went off to Florida while the work was being completed. Well, she came back and stopped the work saying that her husband was devastated and would not move into the condo. They never moved in and they moved into an in law suite at their daughters home. Miles from their home town. She spent her life driving back and forth for her doctors, and shops that she frequented it was very sad. Her husband passed not too much later. She followed a few years later. It was a powerful life lesson for me to witness and learn from. In case number 1 they were a regular folks. He worked in manual labor his wife was a crossing guard. In case number two they were affluent and you would not think that stuff like this would happen. Like I have said before emotions are very powerful. I honesty do not know if full happiness is achievable in this world. I have been very grateful to have had such a nice life. But, there are moments in this life with cancer that I wish I could run and escape it. Which I know is not something that I cannot do.
The couple of things that has kept me anchored throughout this process is God, faith and my family. I focus on the moment that I am in to the best of my ability without projecting too much into the future and my own personal desires.
I guess the best I or we can to is to count our blessings take a deep breath and give it to God as the prayer says be still and know, that I am God and that we all experience the struggle on this Earth.we will get through it.
I heard from my friend Tim today and he said that his wife my friend Leslie who is in home hospice is gravely ill. So please pray for Leslie, Tim and their family.
Also, one of my wife’s
And we should pray for eachother and our own needs Amen.God Bless,
Just Danny Speaks 