I had wonderful grandparents all four were ever present in our lives. Over for dinner all the time etc.

My mothers fathers Richard Flahertywas a very strong mans man. He had great success in his life with his beautiful wife Ilene ( my nana❤️❤️❤️❤️)

During the Great Depression he and my grandmother gave a lot of their wealth up to keep families in their homes which my grandparents owned. My grandfather also owned an ice or coal business that he provided those families neccesettiestoo.  families. When it was over he needed to get another job so he worked for the at the time MTA. He worked their until his retirement he worked so hard of his life and was so proud of his family faith and friends.

He he was simply the best.

i was was in bed this morning looking out the window and was thinking of a memory that I will never forget the New Years Eve when a number of our elder family members passed away. I swear to God we were in the same funeral home 6-8 times in the same year. Me always in my 1 suit. Which I will tell you I always hated.

But, I digress.

This NewYears Eve after all of their losses my mom, grandmother and grandfather were standing side by side watching Guy Lombardo back in the day watching the ball drop and my grandfather began to cry it touched me so much.

Love and loss stink and hurt a whole lot.

this is the song that was playing.

So, I began to think of all of my friends with cancer etc that have died and thought to myself as we all begin to enter into the Holidays of  Thanksgiving and most importantly Christmas. To please remember those who may have experienced a loss and Remenber them in some waperhaps a call, a card or an invite to dinner.we need to be the light to thoseindividuals. This moment seeing my grandfathers heart revealed shaped the man that I would become as well.

God old bless you all, with love,

Danny

And, life is just rolling along day by day, week by week ,month by,month and year by year. Life feels like this a whole lot. You feel like time drags but it is really just evoparating so quickly. I have had to to stop myself once in a while and say to myself stop and breathe in this moment. I have always done this. I am glad that I did and still do this same thing these special moments so deeply embedded in my mind and one memory that touched my heart and is so real even now in this case this event took place 28 years ago .

This is an event that happened 28 years ago with my son Danny who is now almost 30 years old now. DJ was a little tike who was very alert, bright ,silly and busy. My family My mom always thought that his big brown eyes and lashes were so cute.people also thought that he had AD.D. but he didn’t he was just an active kid with a large personality and very creative imagination.o

It was after our second son Brad Michael had passed away from heart disease. My wife stopped at the cemetery and was sitting in her car my son DJ was in his car seat behind my wife. AndJanet described the situation that unfolded.  She was quietly mourning in the front seat as she looked at Brads grave.All of a sudden DJ said don’t worry mom , don’t worry be happy. That moment touched my heart so much. Janet said she actually got into the back and just hugged him.

these are our golden life moments that make our lives fully rounded out. I grab these memories daily to get over the bumps in my day.

this song is the song that DJ sang to her.

This is why I always say that I love children. They are generally loving, innocence and are down right. Caring.

By the way Dan just got married and he still dances this way 28 years later.

God bless you all,

Amen.

I went to bed fairly early on Sunday night I had a busy weekend with my siblings on Saturday night Thankyou for prayers for my brother Steve his knee replacement went well and he is home on the mend. Praise God.

So, we converged upon his home for dinner and desserts. I came home late and eventually made my way up to bed.

it was great to spend my time with my siblings and have my brother the center of concern for a change. I told my siblings our spouces that if my sister Donna could get myself and my brother into a double stroller that she would push us all around the neighborhood all day. We were laughing as I asked my wife if we still had our gray co double stroller. My sister is loving and dotes over her family all the time.

I woke at around 2:00 am and I was just laying looking up at the milky sky through the skylights and my room was chilly the way I like it my widow was open around 1/2″ just to get the breeze and fresh air. I was laying in bed warm and my face was cold from the fresh air. Janet was sleeping and I fell back to sleep thinking over how our lives have changed. Well, I will tell you I had one of the most amazing memories of all of the changes and how the changes occurred. The catalyst was cancer.

I woke up once again amazed at how amazing the mind had just built the whole ordeal. And packaged it up. One phrase kept going through my head as I laid in bed it was ” Going to bed as I person and walking up as another person that is what essentially happened to my life the end of March 2012 I went to bed feeling great just Danny and woke up the next day dropping everything from my hand while making my families breakfast. Same man with different capabilities. And on a new tredgectory in my life. Everything had changed. But peace was carrying me through this crappy situation.

My dream encompassed every facet of my life and reinforced how difficult Janet’s life is which I always acknowledge to her. I have tried to put myself into her daily shoes as I know she tries to do with my life what we both agree upon is that it stinks it certainly was not what we could ever have imagined. But the stuff in our lives lift us up. Our family my dad, siblings, our children our friends and our harmony together all these years adds up to a very happy life.

A few hours later Janet was up and running around getting ready for work and I was still laying in bed. She put on her perfume kissed me good bye and flew out of the room saying have a good day❤️ When she leaves after being together for a couple of days I felt a bit sad and missed her. I could hear her as she left from the garage and

The bottom line is this we are never alone and life ,love and Hapiness are comprised truly of the simplest yet most important of things. So, life has changed so much for us that it is ybig deal it has caused yet transformation in itself.

God bless you all and Thankyou God for your intervention through my sleep to help topic  things back into perspect ive once again in my life. Amen our God is an amazing God. Please pray also for Brendan who is in a terrible battle with leukemia and Bob and his family Bob passed away after a long battle with a respiratory disorder. He and his beautiful wife attended the same weekly mass my wife and myself.Thanks once again.