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This blog is going to contain information of Janet and i’s second son that we had named Brad Michael. He was a beautiful little baby that we had been-found to have an issue with his heart this was almost 28 years ago and the technology of that day suggested that it would be corrected through surgery etc. Brad was totally safe and protected through my wife. He grew normally in the womb and had all that he needed safety oxygen and love An infant gets its oxygen in utero through what’s know as a PDA valve. Brad was over 8′ ponds at birth nice and pink because of his mothers great care with blond hair and pretty blue eyes. He was adorable. Once your child is born or delivered they then need to be able to use their own heart and lungto continue their journey.
We had a huge number of Dr’s with in the O.R. From Bostons Children’s Hospital with us us as Brad-greeted the world. was born the team in the O.R. was on the job working with him we had found out how he was presenting physically. there. Brads condition,was far worse than originally thought Janet was sent home on bed rest for 6 monthsuntil such time as Brad was ready based on an amneo sentesus which checks the fluid for the baby’s lung development.With DJ being around 3 and needing care etca a nd my having to hto work . Going home to Belmont was not an option Janet was put onto bed rest Hense she too could not take of him etc. with no outings and limited bath runs for his protection. fter Brads birth the Children’s team that was was in the O. R.on him right away checking his vitals and trying to evaluate him . It was determined that it was worse that what they had first thought through the earlier Ultra sound.After his next ultra sound after birth on his own anatomy looked showed a much more grim scenario. My parents being as here family and friends and siblings jumped in and helped to dismantle DJsbedroom at our apartment in Belmont so his belonging s were brought to my parents house as was his art work,from his walls his stuffed animal hammock. 😜Lolso cute! They were big back in the day❗️Kids loved them, parents vacuumed them .
My dad after working 3 jobs over the years when necessary to provide with my mom for their families needs had just prepared their home with new paint etc. We arrived to their / our family home their living room was totally emptied and their were two new beds there with a dresser forerunner use too. I went up stairs and saw DJ.new bedroom. All of his furniture, everything that was home to him in Belmont and my parents elation to be of service to their family. My dadand my mom would be up with DJ in the kitchen early as I was ready to go off to work eating breakfast with hi. My siblings ,their children were around to play with him and pass time. My mom was home at lunch to help them wand also to set up adinner plans for the entire family whom ever was there toenjoy.including . We had not one issues, while we were there. And moved back to our apartment the day after Brads funeral. We then welcomed Our daughter Stacy home and moved to our first home in Wakefield and again were Bleesed with our second daughter Rebecca child healthy and finally Rachael joined our family healthy , happy and beautiful. All of these loving life events have given me such peace in this ultimate moment of my life. A sense of hope, faith and deep rooted security. I know that if and when my family were ever presented with such a situation. We would rise to the need and do the same thing. Faith, family,friends and love always.BTW, 28 years ago the word abortion was offered to us as well. Janet I would not have even thought of it personally. We just believe whole hart idly that life is from God alone. It’s his election to infuse life and his election call us home in his time. If we had said yes to an abortion 28 years ago I feel that life would not be the same here in our home his loss was devestting to all 3 living generations of that time and helped Janet at I to find our way back to God where we grew in faith, lost or anger and were blessed with more healthy beautiful. That we were told could be dangerous because of what happened with Brad not that it was in the history or they we genetically disposed but by the fact that it had happened.
from the first ultra sound revealed a condition know as single right ventricle with pulminary stenosis. The odds of a positive outcome ever with surgeries back the We were told originally after the 1st ultra sound that there was an 85percent chance and now it was much more serious and the fight was on praying my entire family and many friends crying and supporting us through each day, each breath, su
We were rushed through the tunnel from Brighams and Women’s to the Bostons Children’s Hospital. My mom was with me and Janet could not come she had a cesarean section scheduled so as not to stress Brads body/ heart with delivery again the Dr’s recommendation. We loved Childrens s as well they were wonderful professional and kind even during a very high stress and emotionally charged time for us.This song that I have selected I truly love the words and the Miracle of children especially with Christmas this weekend where Jesus was born to save man kind from sin is so appropriateMary said yes to God and his angel to give birth to a child which was very dangerous in her time whereas she was unwed. She told God your will be done. and Joseph a Sheppard that she was betrothed to protected her and believe Gods angel about the fact that Mary had been foreshadowed by the Holy Spirit to have this child. The working Mary did you know the one you deliver will soon deliver you I find absolutely poetic. That’s what Brad did to Janet and I his death at a young age was so stinging that it jolted us to the core. We had to begin again to find peace, joy and happiness.
As, a matter of fact we had our little guy D.J who I have described in my earlier writing who was very creative very wide eyed, smart and witty with the biggest brown eyes you would see is was 100 percent active boy people though he might have AD.D. He didn’t I would call it ants in his pants I guess lol.
This song is a song that Janet and I heard about 10 or so years ago that made us love Natalie Grant so much. The word about being held and how could this happen to those who loose their children resonated so deeply. I thought of this today and added this song in hopes that it may touch your hearts as well. Whether it’s a baby a miscarriage or adult child it is a real loss.
Natalie Grant Held. God is holding us that is how we are making it moment by moment, day by day, month by month and year by year. We come to celebrate their lives in time because they were our gifts and have changed who we are today.
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This again is the song popular back in the day that my son age almost 3 sang that caused my wife to climb into the back of car to hug.
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Dans love and creative mind has given us joy beyond belief. He started college slowly and then hit is own stride and his own dream in his heart. He attended BU for his animation studies on his own dime this time and excelled he has been happily employed by a wonderful company for over the past years he does private works of art for clients whatever they may desire. Digital portraits and has worked directly with studios fashion models and independent brands of clothing and foot apparel makers. He is here right nowworking to help we have a guest coming today and the house needed to be spiffed up❤️❌⭕️ The house traffic is slowing down but we have a VIP coming out I will explain in my next writing let me just say again that I am a spoiled and Blessed man.
My my next writing will be called escape from Hosice house. lol I told you I am a brat!
what Brads passing at such a young age-taught me personally was just how connected I was with my son that I held only seconds after birth and death. It was not about the baby in my car, the baby that I fed or the baby getting his first bath , haircut laugh or word. It was the Miracle of his birth and our instinctive Love fro God himself. I have honestly over the years have said I wonder what he would have been like or who. I have always taken comfort because of my faith that I would someday be with him in my fullness as he will be in his as well. Brads birth and young death as tragic as it was brought Janet and I to where we needed to be todayTo deal with our current situation. Our children also feel very connected to their brother which is helping them as well.
God Bless you all Merry Christmas to everyone Amen
As, I always say. Sometimes we do not get the Miracle that we want …. Brad healed and here with us. I always say if we do not get the Miracle then we need be the Miracle Brad was that Miracleto us the strength faith and wisdom we required of the many years of coming to this day has been a Miracle to us we openly acknowledge this fact plus over the years we could try to help others through their same loss. Hopefully my blog might be a little Miracle in an area of your life if we have traveled a similar road. God Bless you all.
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