As a follow up to my writing yesterday this was on my blog in the form of a draft for months just the words family tree with these song links were on that draft so I  will pray on it  and complete this writing. 🙂

Well, God picked a big topic out for  today’s blog. Lol  If God had asked me to write this ten years ago or so it would have been a nasty writing revealing anger, hurt and hate. We witnessed the very worst of some relatives and a friend and we had given all of them a lot of help in so many ways.

 

We will start with this song, like I said this blog was dropped in my draft folder months ago and it just sat . Here we go…

“Family” by Dolly Parton (with lyrics)

Okay, you just listened to Dolly patrons song. It has a great message and it is true on many levels. We all have had relationship issues with family and friends at some point in our lives. I once had an employee that I loved and trusted who was well paid and was treated like family.

This person was very cunning and phoney as it turns out. One thing that she would say is, Dan  nothing devastated you more than people. I always said, no people are good.  Little did I know what she was up to. She was stealing from the business in a big way not directly from the cash coffers so it took quite some time to figure out out the scheme and deception.

The bottom line is this I was pretty devastated by the betrayal that I felt. The money did not bother me as much as the personal betrayal did. I spoke words of truth to her and let her know the gig was up. She was an affluent women and you would never expect such a thing to happen. But what she did not have which I knew but did not want to admit to myself was  faith and a moral compass. She was a God less women who loved money , it was her God. You see, God had me witnessing to her she could not figure me out and came against my faith. But you know God was scaring her with powerful signs that she could not ignore. He was calling her to him. One time while in Lourdes France she was in a cathedral and the music was playing she was not a church goer but was checking out the architecture and decor. She was a pretty famous Boston designer during her life. Well, while sitting there God touched her in a way that brought tears to her eyes as she told me. I said its God , he is talking to you. She said no. She was following a different master and did not even realize it. She was not an evil person , she was an evil doer as it turns out because of her lack of knowledge for God. God had her in our lives for a reason it was not a great feeling being used like a sucker but we now realize that  this can happen in our lives. We also realized that we could forgive her and let it go. Remember God requires us to forgive our debtors or we will not be forgiven ours debts.

Fortunately for me, I had by this time evolved from a secular world Danny into a more Spiritually aware person trying to follow God and live by his commandments. So, I in time was able to forgive that person truely. I pray for her now and thats it. I do not have contact with her , she would be quite elderly by now whereas it has been some years since this situation happened.

You know people always tell you who they are by what they say for instance,

E would say all the time Nothing devestates you more than people, she was right she tought me that herself by her actions.

She also said, Money is not my God . And it was.

Finally, She would also say I am not jaded, but she was very jaded and impressed with her money and circle of friends, trips and 5 star accomedations.

I love her still and truely wish the best for her and know that God loves her the same as he loves me.

Matthew West – Family Tree (lyrics)

 

The other situation does refer to family. I will not get super specific but from distant relatives came a wave of crap that effected the entire family. My wife and i were the doers for them all and they became impossible. Things that I saw for years and would talk to my wife about all of a sudden became viscious. Their parents needed us to protect them it was horrible, my wife took care of her ageing relative and I was made personal health proxy for her elder relatives health. He was all mine, 3 trips to the nursing home a week to assure that he was well and being taken care of.

The one thing that we are so grateful for is that the court seeing the crap going on had asked us to become castodian of their assets , my wife and I said NO. We knew it would be a disaster. No matter what we did.

So we did the right thing . We did our parts .Our loved ones were content that we were by their sides even when they both went to God. They knew love, we had nothing Earthly to gain. The family ate each other up. They then threw sand in the air like children in a sand box trying to find peace in their decisions. God loves them too they are sinners like us all. When the elders left this world 13 years ago we began to pray for them and let them go off to live their lives.

Sometimes loving is hard. it is an act of will.

I/we love them, forgive them and wish them well but do not have contact with them.

Sometimes we need to stay away from those who habitually hurt us.

You see, we do not have the problem they do.

We all have these people that make you pull your hair out. But we do not have to allow that. Be loving and prayerful it is so much better for us . Its healthy.

This song is perfect for this topic :

God made us so strong too allow us to do what we needed to do for our loved ones.

No regrets!  Our lives are so peaceful now perhaps GOD granted me time here on Earth with my family because we sought to serve others. Only God knows. 🙂

P.S. it was 2:30 am this morning when I completed this blog entry. Well suddenly, I got the overwhelming feeling and I googled E name and her obituary popped up. She passed the end of November. I felt my heart tug. Again, God had issued at the right moment my marching orders to pray for her soul. So, at 3 a.m. this morning I prayed for her and her husband and offered my graces to God for their use. I told God of the good things she had done and told her again that I/we forgave her . So please pray for E and the repose of her soul. Amen. Thank you.

 

So, you see once again these blogs take a while to come together but God knows the whens and timing. He began this blog entry months ago, inspired the dialogue all day yesterday into the wee hours of the morning and then showed me why. He had called E to him and he inspired me to Google her name, I then felt called to pray out of love for her not out of anger. God healed me of that so very long ago. She was like me a sinner trying to navigate her life journey. I just had God with me at an early age which helped me due to my upbringing.

What we all need to do. We need to do the right thing and be Christ to oneanother even when being attacked. Hold the tongues and turn the other cheek.

What I Did For Love ~ Johnny Mathis (HD)

 

For E., I know she loved me and felt badly for what she had done even though she never admitted it. I knew her heart.

One day she came into work and said danny , i have a gift for you she was back from Rome and had been to the opera she was so struck by the opera and symphony that she had attended that she bought me the CD of some of the music. It was a special moment where God used music to bring us together. So, here it is, one of the songs.

Rest in Peace E.

Maria Callas: O Mio Babbino Caro (Gianni Schicci) Puccini

God Bless You .

Danny