I have a very dear friend who called me a couple of weeks back. Who was very hurt by another human being, I began to write about this a few weeks ago. This kind  person called me yesterday to congratulate me on my great results at my Doctors appointment.

After a few minutes I said so what’s new? The person said the same old stuff. I cannot believe how I was treated by so and so. I know what had been said to this nice person and just how shocking it was for them because of our prior conversation. As I said before, Evil things / words  gets thrown out when emotions get off the hook. My friend is a holy and good person so to see this behavior from another person being so bitter and hateful was devastating. I counseled this person again that the problem belongs to the other person not them.

I do not know  how I can adequately help a person who lets others ruffle their feathers and effect them so much.

I value and love my friends and family too but the reality of this life is that we are all broken and imperfect. We are the sum total of everything that we experience , our genetics, parental successes or their failures in rearing us. There are wounds that can drive us. Hidden in corners of our minds  that are sick and unhealthy.

This allows volatility,  anger and lashing out.

All that an unhappy person needs is a person to do the slightest thing to set them off .To be at the wrong place at the wrong time and become a victim where the other person could dump their life Crap on to them. It makes the perpetrator feel better about themselves . It is a classic scenario unfortunately .But In  reality what it shows is that they are disturbed and the problems that  they have are very severe  in nature.

People are people

So, the bottom line is this I said to my friend that no one has that much power in your life. They do not define you nor to they have any right to unleash their garbage onto you . That person is no friend especially if after they had no remorse or apology even a  while after this took place. I don’t know who hurt my friend well but it sounded like this person is a narcissist. Who believes their own distorted reality.

So, what are we to do? Well, it’s only my opinion but I will tell you after the song.

Elton John Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word

In closing once and for all as I told my friend last evening as I hung up. We meet people in our lives for good or bad. Some are loving and  some can be hurtful. We need to have them in our lives in order to learn from them these life events. We need to give thanks for both experiences good and bad scenarios in our lives  because we have learned a valuable life lesson that will make us stronger and wiser. It will help us to protect our loved ones and friends because we can then testify that people can do these things and you have to let that event go. We also do not not want to do what they have done to you  back  to them or speak ill of them to others. Jesus spoke very strong language about this. Words spoken about others unkindly are like character assassination. That is a sin.

Speaking badly about them makes you an evildoer too.

My friend apparently went with an olive branch to see this person just to try and  speak . My friend was attacked by and and was blown away by this persons viscous babbling and hurtful rant.

I told my friend to move on and pray for what was your friend. Whether you are a friend for 5 minutes or 100 years really does not matter. Sometimes life changes those that we know and love  in ways that you could never have expected.

But, life goes on and we need to focus on who love us and truely value who we and are walking with us with a  abiding faith journey of peace to God.

I learned from my friend last night that they chose the higher road as the verbal crap was flying at them and stayed calm. My friend practiced what they preached and waited until the other person fled.  I am sure that person ran with quilt and shame dripping from them.

So bravo to my friend in this matter. It’s not easy to stay composed when under such a stressful encounter.

With that I hung up and decided that this would be my last DEAR Danny call about the carnage that people cause oneanother. This is also my last DEAR Danny column about this kind of stuff.  Yuck 🙂 my mom used to call this stuff Cucka, and it is!

LIFE IS WAY TO SHORT!

I SAY THIS… TO  MY FRIEND AND TO YOU ALL WHEN IT IS OVER, MOVE ON, FORGIVE, AND FORGET.

Love one another. Mormon Tabernacle Choir.

God Bless You,

Danny